Saying Goodbye

A goodbye letter from a boy to his girlfriend:

Dear Girlfriend,

Sometimes we come into a persons life not to make them love us, but to make them feel that they're so much worth loving for. And trust me you are worth loving, you’re worth caring for and adoring because you’re simply beautiful. Some romances begin for all kinds of reasons, but when all is said and done, they have one thing in common. They’re shooting stars, a spectacular moment of light in the heavens, fleeting glimpse of eternity, and in a flash they’re gone. They aren’t meant to last. Even though at that moment they feel so right. I know you might feel that, “If I lose this person, I will never be able to love again.” This is never true, ever. Love is so powerful, so intense, it always finds a way to be reborn. And I know its hard to believe and you’ll beg to differ but the hardest part about loving you was understanding that I didn't make you as happy as you made me. And that because I loved you so much I had to let you go so you could find that person that truly makes you happy. Yeah thats the part that hurts the most. But its true. Love isn’t living in constant anxiety or worry. Love is physically being there with someone, taking their pain away, giving them your smile. People who say long distance relationships can survive are idiots. Yes, they do for a while but after that things change. Only very rarely is it seen that a long distance relationship turns into something permanent. And falling in love with someone you’ve never met isn’t viable either, I think it’s the most frustrating thing that can happen to a person. It’s like two people taking their clothes off and not doing a single thing. A very bad example but that’s what popped into my head.

It's not you, I'm weird with relationships. I think I know what I want, and then I run. I think I run because I'm scared; I'm scared that I might get hurt. Or maybe I just haven't found someone who I know is worth being hurt for. But you're an amazing girl. Any guy would be lucky to have you. I just don't know if you're what I really want, I don't know if I want you just because I’m lonely, and if that's the case then it's completely unfair to you. I need to get my life together. I think it's about time for that. I can't keep living from day to day. I need to find out what it is that I want, and right now a relationship just isn't it.

Don’t be heartbroken, and trust me you’ll forget about this in time, I`ve been there, it gets better. That pain in the pit of your stomach, that pain in your heart, it goes away. That voice in your head saying there`s no way out. It's wrong, believe me, it gets better.

I figured out lately that life is too short for playing games, for fooling around with someones feelings and not only short, its unpredictable, you don’t know whats going to happen the next moment so live this one to the fullest, make the best of it, don’t be in an unsure state over things and waste time crying over somebody when you could use that minute laughing with someone else.

I know you say I’ve been distant but always put yourself in the other person's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too. And trust me right now I’m hurting, not because of you, but because of the situation I’m in and also because of you, I was lying before. You hurt me, I know you think its all my fault but its never just one persons fault, we both made mistakes, they piled up and in the end became a load of bullshit, a mess that cant be dealt with.

Love, is just exposing your vulnerabilities to someone, giving them the power to hurt you but trusting them not to do it, we both kind of exploited that. Hurt each other in different ways, intentionally or unintentionally. But you should always remember that there is a purpose for these things to be happening to us. Maybe it was preparing us for the person who will come into our lives next. Maybe they are the one for us or maybe they aren’t. Maybe you have to still go through another 10 guys to get to him, but get to him you will and when you do, that will be love. Then you will look back on today and this letter and think, “He was right, we weren’t in love, we were just two people trying to be together.” Always remember that love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, and to those who still love even though they've been hurt before and getting hurt is inevitable. You have to get hurt. That’s how you learn. The strongest people out there, the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile, those are the people who have fought the toughest battles. Because they’ve decided that they’re not going to let anything hold them down, they’re showing the world who's the boss.

And I’m quoting Nicholas Sparks right now because this is as true as it gets - A guy out there was meant to be the love of your life, your best friend, your soul mate, the one you can tell your dreams to. He’ll brush the hair out of your eyes. Send you flowers when you least expect it. He’ll stare at you during the movies, even though he paid $8 to see it. He’ll call to say goodnight or just cause he is missing you. He’ll look in your eyes and tell you, you’re the most beautiful girl in the world, and for the first time in your life, you’ll believe it. I’m not that guy, I’m just someone who helped you on the journey to him, each time you remember me and remember what we had, before breaking down and crying, also remember, what we had is over... For a reason and you’re one step closer, to him.

I would like to think I never did those things, or never said that to you. But the truth is, I did and that's apart of me. I make mistakes, and I know who I am because of them. I lost you because of it, but to lose you meant to gain myself. I'm movin' on. At last I can see life has been patiently waiting for me. And I know there are no guarantees, but I'm not alone. There comes a time in everyone's life when all you can see are the years passing by. And I have made up my mind that those days are gone. I’m going to find myself. And find that girl who will make me want to commit, make me want to laugh always and smile and make me feel alive. But right now, I don’t feel there’s anyone out there for me, It’s me, myself and I. I plan to enjoy the solitude, to go on long walks, to fix my life, to get it back together and to cherish our memories, for now. The love you have given me is immense and I’m glad I met you.

But now I know that we aren’t meant to be together. I wish the best for you. Thank you, for being there, for being my best friend. Thank you for loving me.

Yours,

Boyfriend

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Disclaimer:

1. I didn't write this. I found this on twitter :)